I honestly feel like in a real relationship, BOTH parties need to change if they expect it to work/last, and BOTH parties need to give a little. Your woman should allow you a night a week to play your game, and YOU should be willing to take her dress shopping (you will earn major points with a woman if you also tell her how fabulous she looks in it) and neither of you should complain about it either, you BOTH have to take interests in what the other likes/loves in order for things to really work out, and you BOTH have to change. Both have to listen to each other, both have to encourage one another, and both have to be humble enough to do it.

If you want to please a woman, do the things that she likes every so often, but don't let it get out of control. If you want to please HER, then don't spend more than a night a week playing your game (maybe two if she doesn't care ;) ) but when she tells you, "I need you, stop playing" do it... otherwise expect the relationship to end. You will be teaching your woman that a game means more to you than her feelings, and she's going to take that internally to mean that you don't care about other things too. 

All relationships are GIVE and take. Not take and take.  

 

@Winsa - 

right. i'm not really talking about the relationship aspect here. it was more about the double standard that makes it okay for women to stand up for the things they enjoy, but turns a guy into a low life if he does the same.

but you're right, that both parties should be able to bend for the other. not necessarily change. just adapt. i don't expect any woman to live a life of slavery to my needs. and the point of this post is that no man should be expected to do that for a woman.

@Winsa - 

nah, it's all good. i post what i'm thinking. so, since you're not in my head, it's understandable that you might take it a differnt way.

I have to agree with Winsa on the give and take part, (on a relationship standpoint) If you're in a relationship and your woman berates you for the simplest things then just dump her I know thats easier said than done but, you are your own person no matter what. Women have the rights to stand up to things they value just as much as men do. (although bashing and generalizing all men AND women is bullshit ignorance) I don't interfere with any bitches business and I expect the same from others. You can go ahead and play COD while I go out shopping for unneccesary accessories and we could still coexist happily, that's the way I think. Anyways great post. :)

@xXDyingDarknessXx - 

haha believe me, if a woman berated me for the simplest things, it would be just as easy to actually dump her than it would be to just talk about it. but anyway, i like your attitude. individualism should be included in relationships, in moderation of course. because if they lose their individuality, they cease to be the person you started dating in the first place.

I have NEVER heard a man mention servitude to women. I find that very interesting. It's usually women talking about their servitude to men. What makes you feel that way? You can message me if you'd like. I'm very intrigued by that statement.

@danceswithgrammar - 

the classic stereotype is that women serve men. but the truth in this day and age, is that a lot of women expect to be served by their men. they expect their men to bow to their every need, while sacrificing things they enjoy. that attitude is that women are the prize and a man must do everything in his power, up to and including giving up himself, to impress her. perfect example: the last paragraph of this post.

When I first got my Wii (and before I moved to Texas to further pursue my girlfriend), I actually opted to spend time with her first. SEVERAL times my girl had to virtually push me off the computer (to get off web cam with her), and go enjoy my new toy that she knew I was very excited about. Out of love, I wanted her to know my games would not come before her. But also out of love, she was not interested in demanding all my time. She'll never be into games like I am, but she admires my passion and respects how much I appreciate a well-made game (graphics, story, creativity, etc).

That a man must give up who he is to satisfy a woman at a woman's whims shows a huge lack of respect from the woman, respect that a man NEEDS. Not to mention the woman must have a huge lack of self-esteem.